Daintty’s Diary

IS POST-ROMANCE FRIENDSHIP POSSIBLE?

"Can we still be friends?"..it sounds straightforward enough, but is there any substance to this classic breakup cliche? The reasons for the split will ultimately determine whether post-romance friendship is possible…and when.

FRIENDSHIP IS POSSIBLE IF…

• U and ur ex had an amicable split in which both of you acknowledged and accepted that u had grown apart, friendship could be the likely outcome.
• U wer more like brother and sister, stand a good chance of maintaining a friendship as long as the breakup was handled with honesty and respect.
• Ur having someone u can call on anytime for anything is a real blessing in this life.

SIGNS U CAN BE FRIENDS WITH UR EXES:

• Missing the conversation but could care less about seeing ur ex naked.
• Realized why he /she wasn’t right for and have moved on.
• Can drink with him under the table and not winding up between the sheets..you know what i mean!!
• and if ur happy to hear that he/she dating again and wish him/her all the best.

IT’S TIME TO CUT THE CORD IF….

• U wer co-dependent. The hardest relationship tie to sever is one where a level of co-dependency existed. Mind games, bad behavior, breakups and makeups are all trademarks of co-dependent relationship and no basis for a lasting friendship.
• U wer treated badly, exes who wer manipulative, self-obsessed,unreliable or just not that nice aren’t going to be much better as friends. The longer u keep these selfish types around, the longer it will take to find someone who will treat u right.
• Ur relationship was just sex or physical relationship, sadly, there’s not much left to salvage in the friendship department.

SIGNS U CAN’T BE FRIENDS WITH UR EXES:

• when u see someone who looks like ur ex.
• when u get physically ill when u hear he/she met someone new.
• when u lie to ur family and friends about seeing ur exes because u know they won’t approve.
• lastly, when u find urself calling at odd hours, emailing non-stop, or worse, hanging around outside ur exes workplace or home.

There are no rules about staying friends with someone who was once something more to u. However, an honest appraisal of the true nature of ur relationship is what’s required to determine if an exes can-and should-make the transition from bed buddy to best buddy.

SO WHEN U HEAR THESE FAMOUS LAST WORDS "CAN WE STILL BE FRIENDS," THINK LONG AND HARD BEFORE AGREEING. SOMETIMES, SOMEONE IS AN "EX" FOR A VERY GOOD REASON.^_^